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How long have you been married?

Do you have any children? If so, how many and what are their ages?

Have you ever been married before? If yes, please explain.

On a scale of 1-10 how would you rate your satisfaction in your marriage? (1 = you’re not satisfied at all, and 10 = you’re delighted with how things are going.)

Share what you see as the top three strengths in your marriage?

What three things would you most like to change about yourself as a spouse? Why?

Describe some specific things about your spouse that concern you and that you would change if you could.

What do you see as the specific needs you have as a married couple?

In your married life, what are the greatest challenges you’ve experienced?

How would you describe your relationship with each of your family members when you were growing up?

What is your relationship like with them now?

Do you think your relationship with family members brings stress to your marriage? If so, how?

Are there relational bridges you need or want to build or rebuild with your families? If so, what are they?

How were love, warmth, and tenderness expressed in your home growing up? Has divorce occurred in your family?

How did your parents handle problems between them?

What is your plan for settling problems?

What is your relationship like with your In-laws?

How do you think your family background affects your marriage?

Has there been alcohol, drug, physical or sexual abuse in your family background?

If so, how have these experiences influenced you?:

Name several reasons that led you to marry your mate:

Is there anything that makes you jealous of your mate?

What would you consider grounds for divorce?

How important are certain dates (anniversary, birthday, etc.) to you?

What are two activities (recreational, social, etc.) that you have in common?

Do the two of you have mutual friends?

If so, how often are you together?

Do you dislike any of your spouse's family or friends?

If so, why?:

What do you consider to be the role of the husband in your marriage?

What do you consider to be the role of the wife in your marriage?

Describe how you make important decisions in your marriage?

How important do you feel communication is to a relationship and how do you define it?

When do you feel the most freedom to communicate?

When do you feel the least freedom to communicate?

One aspect of your relationship you’ve been reluctant to discuss with your spouse, but wish to now is:

Describe several things your partner does that make it easy to share yourself with him/her:

Describe several things your partner does that make it difficult to share yourself with him/her:

One need I wish my partner would be more sensitive to is:

How do you express pain, disagreement and anger in your relationship?

How does your mate?

Have you received Christ as your Savior?

When did this occur?

Describe your personal relationship with Jesus Christ.

What does it mean for the husband to be the spiritual leader and head of the home?

Are your parents Christians?

Are you certain that your spouse is a Christian?

How do you perceive your spouse’s relationship with Jesus Christ?

What would you like to see God do in your marriage?

What resources have you read or listened to on the subject of sex in marriage?

On a scale of 1 to 10, how important is sex in marriage? (1 being the least important and 10 being most)

Does the discussion of sexual matters make you embarrassed or inhibited?

Have you and your mate agreed on the income necessary to operate your household?

Do you and your mate have the same attitude toward charitable giving?

What are the roles each of you play in paying of the bills and overall finances?

Have you planned any kind of budget?

What is your opinion of buying on credit?

Do you and your spouse allocate money for personal expenses?

For what items?

Do you have a Will?

Insurance Program?

How do people who know you best respond to your relationship?

What would you like to see happen in your marriage mentoring?

Are there any marriage issues, in which you would like to gain further insight?

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