How long have you known each other?
How long have you been engaged?
Does your family approve of your choice of mate? Yes No If not, what are their reservations?
Have you ever been married before? If yes, please explain:
Are you well acquainted with your potential mate’s immediate family? Yes No List three strengths and three weaknesses in your potential mate.
List three strengths and three weaknesses in yourself.
List the ways you and your potential mate are alike.
List the ways you and your potential mate are different.
Describe some specific things about your potential mate that concern you and that you would change if you could.
List what you feel are the positive strengths of your father:
List what you feel are the positive strengths of your mother:
List what you feel are the weaknesses of your father:
List what you feel are the weaknesses of your mother:
In what ways are you similar to your father:
In what ways are you similar to your mother:
How well do you and your father communicate?
Not very well
How well do you and your mother communicate?
Not very well
How were love, warmth, and tenderness expressed in your home growing up?
How did your parents handle problems between them?
What was your response to your parent’s methods of handling their problems?
What is your plan for settling problems?
What do you perceive to be the strengths of your future spouse’s family?
What do you perceive to be the weaknesses of your future spouse’s family?
Which of your parents contributes the most strength to the marriage?
How do you expect your marriage to differ from your parents?
How do you expect your marriage to be similar to your parents?
How will your family background affect your marriage?
If so, how have these experiences influenced you?
Name several reasons that led you to desire to marry your potential mate:
Is there anything that makes you jealous of your potential mate?
What would you consider grounds for divorce?
How important are certain dates (anniversary, birthday, etc.) to you?
What are two activities (recreational, social, etc.) that you have in common?
If so, how often are you together?
If so, why?
How much education have you had? Do you plan on continuing your education?
How do you feel about having children?
How many children would you like to have and why?
How do you feel about the wife working outside the home?
Describe how you plan to make important decisions in your marriage?
How important do you feel communication is to a relationship and how do you define it?
When do you feel the most freedom to communicate?
When do you feel the least freedom to communicate?
One aspect of your relationship you’ve been reluctant to discuss with your future partner, but wish to now is:
Describe several things your future partner does that make it easy to share yourself with him/her:
Describe several things your future partner does that make it difficult to share yourself with him/her:
Are there any secrets that you should keep from each other?
One need I wish my future partner would be more sensitive to is:
How do you express pain, disagreement and anger in your relationship?
How does your potential mate?
When did this occur?
Describe your personal relationship with Jesus Christ.
What does it mean for the husband to be the spiritual leader and head of the home?
How do you perceive your future spouse’s relationship with Jesus Christ?
What would you like to see God do in your marriage?
In your opinion, what is appropriate romantic involvement during engagement?
What resources have you read or listened to on the subject of sex in marriage?
Do you think your knowledge of sexual and physical relations is:
Room for improvement
On a scale of 1 to 10, how important is sex in marriage? (1 being the least important and 10 being most)
List two reasons why you think your fiancé has a proper biblical understanding and awareness of his/her sexuality and is ready for marriage:
Does the discussion of sexual matters make you embarrassed or inhibited?
What do you believe to be the limits in your physical relationship before marriage?
Which of you is going to handle the money and payment of bills?
What is your opinion of buying on credit?
For what items?
Why do you feel confident that this marriage will be successful?
How do people who know you best respond to this relationship?
What would you like to see happen in your premarital mentoring?